we do need to be more kink critical irl if it involves physical or emotional harm

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sorry not sorry

whether it’s the actual abusers that are enabled / get by with their abuse

the vulnerable and traumatized who are being exploited and taken advantage of

the simple reinforcement of already devastatingly harmful ideologies

or the unchecked risk to life and health and wellbeing that comes from many practices (for example strangulation/choking)

like yesssss you don’t want like a government mandate on the bedroom

but at the same time you really don’t want a multiple times abuser to be allowed to hurt anyone they want either

and by not having serious discussions about the harmful consequences of some kinks like BDSM

you just open the door wider and wider for more victims who get shoved to the sidelines because they undermine the live and let live embrace that all kinks are created equal

which is a dumb mindset to apply to something that causes physical or emotional pain anyway

like people rightfully have no sympathy and will not allow for those whose fetish is young children

nor do we legally allow for those whose fetish is rape and assault

why are we so allowing for people whose fetish is inflicting pain?

especially if your entire argument hinges on consent which can be VERY difficult if not outright impossible to give when someone is being physically or emotionally hurt

to say nothing of BDSM practices that are sprung on random hookups these days without any consent whatsoever

we HAVE to be more critical we HAVE to have uncomfortable discussions

it’s more important to protect the vulnerable than it is to protect a fetish

and where we’re at right now where abusers get off scott free on the ‘it was just BDSM’ excuse

you can’t have both. we are not at a place where you can have it both ways